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Addiction and Recovery: Tag Team Enabling of Alcoholism and other Drug Addictions Self Help Articles | August 13 Cheap MLB Jerseys China , 2009 When there is addiction in your family,? you naturally want to solve the problem of the addiction, point them in the right direction, and make sure that they will be ok.? while these are normal reactions and family members try perfectly normal solutions to the problem, addiction does not lend itself to those solutions.? In an effort to problem solve Cheap MLB Jerseys , family members, either serially or collectively end up enabling.?
When you have a family member who has addiction, you want to help.?You want to save them from having to experience the negative consequences of their addictions.? You can foresee these predictable problems occurring in the future.?You want to make them be able to also see those consequences and thus avoid them.?When you see someone that you love hurting, you want to kiss it, put a band-aid on it Cheap Replica Jerseys , or take away the pain in some way.?These are normal reactions.?
Unfortunately, addiction does not lend itself to ?normal? solutions.? Family members apply normal solving problem behavior to the "abnormal" problems of addiction and end up enabling the continuation of the very "thing" they hope to stop--the drinkingusing.?
A simple applied definition of "enabling" is the removal, or reduction,?of the natural negative consequences of someone else's behavior.?When you remove the consequences of someone's behavior, they have no motivation to change that behavior.?As far as they are concerned Cheap Throwback Jerseys , what they are doing is working for them.?You as a family member, and as an enabler, can be in the bankruptcy courts as a consequence of continuing to financially enable them.?
If they still have other enablers willing to step up to the plate to carry on after you are broke, they don't have a problem.? Having additional enablers waiting in the wings is commonplace for addicts.?Most addicts have layers of enablers.?
Within a family, the enabling hierarchy would include spouse (if any) Cheap Authentic Jerseys , parents (individually or collectively), grandparents, siblings.?The first line of enablers is usually the spouse or the parents if there is no spouse.???
A common phenomena occurs, that I like to call ?tag team enabling?.? It starts when one enabler stops the enabling and another enabler steps up to take over that role.? If the primary enabler gets to a point where she is fed up and begins to detach (usually with anger), making a conscious decision to stop enabling Cheap Custom Jerseys , another person in that family system will usually step up and carry on the rescue services.?
Often there is one family member, especially in the parental generation who is saying, "I'm not going to keep doing this.?I am not willing to bail him out any more.?That's it!" and another who is saying, "Now Honey, wait a minute.?What if ......".?They trade places as the one in the foreground gets fed up and moves into the background and the one who has been in the background moves into the foreground to continue the enabling.?When the one in the foreground feels used up again Cheap Jerseys From China , they will typically trade places again.